Reveal one of your love strategies!

Filipino Strategy!!!!

2011-03-06T02:35:00.000-08:00

White Onyx's comment on one of my post...

2009-12-07T04:33:00.000-08:00

He's/her opinion about true essence of forgiving

easier said than done.

the true essence of forgiving is to be able to remember the person's name and the things happened in the past without feeling the pain anymore.

and it takes time.
a month, a year or more than that perhaps.
but no matter how long it would have to take you to feel that you had already forgiven, it is most important to know how to deal with the emotions.. anger, fear, regrets, etc. you sit down and feel what you feel. for doing so help you realize more about yourself. that you are stronger than you think you are. and hopefully gain the wisdom that you need to wait for tomorrow with great anticipation..
then, find someone who will accept you at your worst.. someone whom you see and you'll be reminded that everything's gonna be alright. someone who definitely deserves you at your best. so you strive to be a better person each day. gain the strength to find your way back. fill so much love. a love that you never thought you will ever have..

A Very Short Love Story

2009-07-27T22:18:00.000-07:00

BOY: I need someone to talk to ..
GiRL: I`m alwayz here for you.
BOY: I know.GiRL: Whatz wrong?
BOY: I like her *s0o* much..
GiRL: Talk to her.
BOY: I don`t know.. she`ll never like me.
GiRL: Don`t say that. You`re amazing.
BOY: I just wanna tell her how I feel ..
GiRL: Then tell her.
BOY: She won`t like me.
GiRL: How do you know that?
BOY: I can just tell.
GiRL: Well, just tell her.
BOY: What should I say?
GiRL: Tell her how much you like her.
BOY: I tell her that daily.
GiRL: What youu mean?
BOY: I'm alwayz with her. I love her.
GiRL: I know how you feel. I have the same problem. But he`ll never like me.
BOY: Wait. Who do you like?
GiRL: Ooh, some boy..
BOY: Ooh, she won`t like me either.
GiRL: She does.
BOY: How do you know.. ?
GiRL: Because who wouldn`t like you?
BOY: You..
GiRL: You`re wrong. I love you.
BOY: I love you too.
GiRL: .. so are you going to talk to her?
BOY: I just did.

My Top 10 Flatter Pick-up Lines

2009-07-23T05:33:00.000-07:00

10. Baby, you must be a broom, cause you just swept me off my feet.

9. Baby, you're so sweet, you put Hershey's outta business.

8. Did the sun come out or did you just smile at me?

7. Have you always been this cute, or did you have to work at it?

6. Hey baby, you must be a light switch, cuz every time I see you, you turn me on!

5. Hey, don't I know you? Yeah, you're the girl with the beautiful smile.

4. I feel like Richard Gere, I'm standing next to you, the Pretty Woman.

3. I have had a really bad day and it always makes me feel better to see a pretty girl smile. So, would you smile for me?

2. Were you arrested earlier? It's gotta be illegal to look that good.

1. Excuse me, I don't want you to think I'm ridiculous or anything, but you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I just felt like I had to tell you."

There! now go for it!

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My Top 10 Worst Pick-up Lines

2009-07-23T05:20:00.000-07:00

10. I wish you were a door so i could bang you all day long.

9. (Lick finger and wipe on her shirt) Lets get you out of these wet clothes.

8. You might not be the best looking girl here, but beauty is only a light switch away.

7. Do you work for LBC? 'Cause I swear I saw you checking on my 'package'!

6. Man - Fat Penguin!
Woman - WHAT?
Man - I just wanted to say something that would break the ice.

5. You'll do.

4. I may not be the best looking guy here, but I'm the only one talking to you.

3. Is that a tic-tac in your pocket or are you just glad to see me?

2. I've had quite a bit to drink, and you're beginning to look pretty good.

1. Man - Do you like to dance?
Woman - Yes !
Man - Well then, could you go dance so I can talk to your friend?

Man hope you like it, and guys don't do this okay??? girls, now you know.

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

2009-07-23T04:49:00.000-07:00

All You Need Is Love
Author: John Lennon; Lead vocal: John Lennon

Love, Love, Love.

There's nothing you can do that can't be done.

Nothing you can sing that can't be sung.

Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game. It's easy.

Nothing you can make that can't be made.

No one you can save that can't be saved.

Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time. It's easy.

All you need is love.

All you need is love, love.

Love is all you need.

All you need is love.

All you need is love, love.

Love is all you need.

Nothing you can know that isn't known.

Nothing you can see that isn't shown.

Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be. It's easy.

All you need is love.

All you need is love, love.

Love is all you need.

All you need is love (Paul: All together, now!)

All you need is love.

(Everybody!) All you need is love, love.

Love is all you need (love is all you need).

Yee-hai! Oh yeah!

She loves you, yeah yeah yeah.

Credits
Recorded: June 14, 1967 at Olympic Sound Studios, London, England (backing track), overdubbed and shortened at an Abbey Road session, then overdubbed live on the "Our World" TV broadcast

::Backing track::

John Lennon - harpsichord

Paul McCartney - string bass played with a bow

George Harrison - violin

Ringo Starr - drums

::Abbey Road Track::

John Lennon - lead vocal

Paul McCartney - electric bass guitar

George Harrison - guitar

Ringo Starr - drums

::Live "Our World" track::

John Lennon - lead vocal

Paul McCartney - background vocal

George Harrison - background vocal

Session musicians - studio orchestra

Mick Jagger, Gary Leeds, Keith Richards, Marianne Faithfull,Jane Asher, Patti Harrison, Keith Moon, Graham Nash - chorus

one definition of a VAST word: LOVE!

2009-07-01T07:21:00.000-07:00

Yes, love is everywhere. Love is in me and you too. But yet we still ask what love is. And at the same time we might not know how to love! Everyone wants to love and be loved in life. Call it addiction to love or whatever; love is a feeling that cannot be described in words. It has to be felt. Scientifically it is difficult to tell the causes of love. Love has depth. It cannot be defined due to its limitless nature, yet it is in how we define it, that gives our life meaning. Read on to find out some killer strategies on how to make others love you. One of the most important things we as humans need to learn is self-love. If we do not love ourselves, it is impossible for others to love us or for us to love anyone else. If you want others to love you, you must love yourself. If you willing to love yourself you will love others and others will love you too. It is as simple as that. The reverse is also true if you go through life hating yourself you can end up hating others and if you go through life hating others then others hate you too.

Trust is one of the important aspects in love. If you love someone and you want the love of that person in return, all you have to do is to trust that person. As a matter of fact, trust makes a strong bond between any relationships. The relationship could be very fragile and never last long if you keep thinking of "Can I trust him, how can I be sure he will never betray me." So, trust a person and expect trust from that person.When you are concerned about other people they will automatically start being concerned about you. You see once you start caring about people you would automatically start receiving love and support from them. If someone needs your help, learn to offer a helping hand selflessly without any incentives. You see its common human nature that when you help someone they tend to remember and help you one day. Care, concern and help others are something which will make people love you.

Some people are self centered and always think about themselves. These kinds of people are hated the most by everyone. Remember true love is self-less. So, stop using the word me and start to listen to others. Show your respect and attention to them rather than you own. Appreciate the achievement of others even it is just a small one. Your appreciation will make others feel worthy and important. When you make someone feel worthy they automatically give you one of the most incredible gifts you can imagine which are love.We need love from the moment we are born to thrive. We might survive but we do not thrive without abundant love. Everybody needs love because it is the simple answer to almost any question. Love is not outside us, though we can block our awareness of it. Love remains the truth of our being, regardless of our relentless attempts to let fear stand in its way. Love patiently calls to us from within, to get out of the way and let it be our guide. Show your love to others, they will definitely shower you with love from all corners. If all else fails, talk to a mirror... why?? because only you can decide what's best for you... talking to yourself means you love yourself and you respect your own being... remember the rule: to love someone, you must learn to love yourself first!

Things to remember!

2009-06-26T04:39:00.000-07:00

To ease the pain of a broken relationship and to break down those walls:

Don’t look at a relationship that didn’t work out as a failure. Often it’s an imagined "failure" that fuels you to the success you’ve always dreamed of. .

Don’t dwell on the past – look toward your future. As Anthony Robbins said "Your past does not equal your future. Sometimes after a separation, we find ourselves dwelling on the past; our thoughts consumed with that other person. You will begin to heal when you start thinking and writing about what you want for your life".

Understand and acknowledge your part in the break up. It is easy to place all the blame on your "ex", but until you take responsibility for at least some part of the break up, you are unlikely to have fulfilling relationships in the future

Barbara De Angelis PHD, a US relationship expert, says "The emotions that you feel and express, you can heal. You can’t heal feelings that you stuff inside you. We need to actually go back in there, say the things we never said, cry the tears we never cried, get angry about the things we never got angry about, so that we don’t need to protect ourselves with those walls any more". So, have a good cry, rant and rave, punch the pillows and get it all out of you!
Read books, hire a coach or therapist, go to workshops and seminars, find articles on the internet that teach you about letting go of the past and be sure to apply the lessons.

It does take courage to take the risk to love again, but remember "Great love requires great courage". When you love deeply, with courage and commitment, your relationships and life will be filled with joy and happiness.

4 steps to find your right one!!!

2009-06-26T04:27:00.000-07:00

Have you been struggling for years with the question of how to find your true love? If so, you certainly aren't alone. Perhaps you've been through relationship after relationship only to be disappointed when the object of your affection has turned out not to be the love of your life. How do you know when you really have found true love? It's a difficult question, but read on for some answers that will put you on the path to success.

Don't limit your options
The obvious first step in finding "the" guy is to put yourself out there. While it's true that most couples find each other at school or at work, there are many instances in which a happy couple met at a bar or a club or were introduced by a mutual friend. Some couples even met online.
Find out where singles in your town gather and make yourself a frequent visitor. Let your friends know that you are looking. Make an effort to make new friends - you never know which one might turn out to be "the one." There are a lot of resources out there to help couples meet - try an online dating site or explore speed dating. Until you try, you'll never know what works.

Know what you're looking for
Sit down and make a list of the qualities that are important to you in a mate. Think about the things that were positive in past relationships and include them. What qualities do you look for in a friend? If good looks are important to you, include that. Ditto for intelligence, a sense of humor, ambition, love of children, good health, etc. There are men out there who have all the qualities you seek, but first you need to know what those qualities are.

Don't compromise your standards
Once you've established what you're looking for, stick to your guns. If smoking turns you off, don't start dating a smoker and hope to get him to quit. It usually doesn't work, and you may be passing up a good opportunity to meet "Mr. Right" while you are focusing your attention on him. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't meet your standards. Know that you deserve better.

Don't give up
Keep in mind that once you've learned how to find your true love, it will take some time. It's important not to become discouraged, which could lead to lowering your standards. Instead, go on with your life, do things you enjoy and radiate happiness and self-confidence. That way, when he does come along you'll be ready for him.

from the expert!

2009-05-31T18:14:00.000-07:00

LOVE STRATEGIES:
*The first thing you need to do is promise yourself you will never make a commitment in that first 6-month period because you are literally not thinking straight. Enjoy the ride for what it is without endowing either the object of your affection or the relationship itself with unrealistic qualities. Romantic illusion, by its very definition, implies a false impression, a fantasy, mistaken identity. How to tell when you’ve been stung by the love bug? The usual signs are the inability to think of anything but the beloved, heart palpitations each time you see them or speak on the phone, the desire to talk about them 24 hours a day, wanting only to do that which pleases them and listening with rapt attention to every word they utter. It isn’t obsessive unless these symptoms don’t go away in the fullness of time, despite day to day practical reality.

* Next, consider the laws of attraction which are basically two - 1/ we tend to be attracted to people who appear to possess qualities we think we lack and 2/ we tend to fall in love with people who have qualities of one or both or our parents. This occurs for purposes of healing past hurts and furthering self-knowledge. The more self-awareness we have, the more we can make healthy choices about which attractions we want to build on and which we want to let pass. Each one of us is perfect and complete in ourselves and in fact, need nothing outside to fulfill us but we’ve been conditioned for decades by love songs, romantic fiction and social ideals to think that we need a mate in order to be happy. We are made up of polarities with all sorts of conflicting qualities; we are not one-dimensional, black and white cardboard cut-outs. *Celebrate your diversity, insist on being contradictory, allow your contrasts for these are what make you a complex and fabulous individual. Then you will never think that someone you’re in love with is superior to you or far more wonderful. Neither do you need anyone to stand up for you, speak for you or make you feel special. You have all the qualities you admire in others, particularly potential partners. Until you realise this, you will choose people who reflect your opposite areas such as a confident person if you think you lack confidence or a loud, boisterous partner if you’re quiet and more internal. That way, you prevent your own growth as you need never find the confident part of yourself or any of your other polarities. This creates what is known as a `relationship pattern,’ often repeated and unsatisfactory.

*Come to love as you would a wonderful smorgasbord. Let your eyes feast but be selective so that you don’t choose too much or the wrong selections, ones that don’t agree with you or are too rich for your palate. If you do take something you’re not sure of, feel free to experiment - try it, take a bite but also know you’re allowed to say no, thank you, this doesn’t suit me. In this way, you experience life and love fully but it doesn’t control you as an addiction does. For an addiction to be present, it needs to take over your life, you have to hand over your power to it and allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self-esteem and a sense of value. Whether it’s love or something else, we surely don’t want to lose control over ourselves to that extent. Always hold your own power and trust that everything you want will come to you without your sacrificing your integrity or compromising your identity. Let love develop in its own time for, like a fine wine, true feelings need nurturing and space. Obsessive love is always in a hurry, seeking standard results and cliched responses. RISKY TIMES:It is most likely to occur at these particular occasions in life:
*Early adult life when experience of life and love is limited*
After a break-up where one person did not want the relationship to end*In a marriage or other long-term relationship where one partner is far more in love than the other or in fact, love is unrequited from one side.
*When a person falls in love for the first time later in life and has no warning of the force of these feelings.
*When an individual came from a childhood background of emotional neglect. I’ll briefly explain each of these. The first is self-explanatory. Naivete and lack of life-experience is the cause of much emotional pain as the innocent person lacks the resources to make judicious choices in matters of the heart. Whilst love is an emotional matter, good sense can still reign, if not in the initial throes of passion then certainly when a cooler head prevails. After a break-up, the rejected party can easily develop an obsession for the loved one, indeed many books and films have told this very story. It’s about the inability to let go, causing the frustrated partner to feed on a fantasy version of events, often making up whole scenarios to replace the plain fact that the relationship is over. Sometimes, even stalking occurs, harassment and violent behaviour. The unwanted pursuer sees him or herself as a victim and without proper closure, the wound can take years to heal and in some cases., it never does, leaving the sufferer bitter and totally unable to trust again. In the case of unrequited love, the lover interprets even the slightest sign as encouragement and in stories like the famous `Fatal attraction,’ a casual sexual encounter is seen as a `grande affaire.’ Obstacles such as partners, business matters and family obligations are blamed for the failure of development in the relationship and never the lack of interest on the part of the loved one. The obsessed party feeds off the possibility of a full relationship in the future no matter how unlikely this is. If one partner is more in love than the other, it doesn’t have to pose any great problem unless the one who loves more insists on reciprocation to the same degree. In this case, the other person feels stifled and suffocated; all kinds of negative behaviours start creeping in such as jealousy, possessiveness and paranoia. It’s impossible for a healthy relationship to progress in this emotional atmosphere. Such a relationship is depicted in the famous John Galsworthy novels, `The Forsyte Saga.’ Innocence can be present at any stage of life, not only in youth. Some men and women lead very emotionally sheltered lives, safe and secure in contented marriages until something or someone shocks them out of their complacency. Two very famous classic films recounted such incidents - `Brief encounter’ and `The astonished heart.’ In both of these tales, the very ordinary victims of sudden blinding passion had no warning of the ferocious depth of their feelings until they were already drowning in them and in fact, I wonder if their very unpreparedness made them more vulnerable. Those who were deprived in earlier life of love, emotional sustenance, praise and attention tend to grow up more dependent on others for their good feelings and self-esteem. Such people are more likely candidates for obsessive love because they tend to love blindly and endow the loved one with God-like qualities. The rose-coloured glasses simply never come off even in the face of harsh reality and everyday life. It’s impossible for the object of this devotion to live up to such high standards and either they fall off the pedestal or the strain of this pretence simply breaks up the relationship.LOVING YOURSELF:The common denominator for all these types of obsessive love or love addiction is what we said at the start - lack of self-value. Once we realise we’re always `safe,’ whether we’re alone or in a couple, there would be no need to look to others for validation. We can praise ourselves, love ourselves and value ourselves, thus sharing a complete human being with those we interact with and care for. Emotional hunger can never be fed by others. Romantic illusion is a dream of the perfect person and this of course does not exist, except in fairy tales. Love is not actually something we get from outside ourselves. Like inner joy, sexual energy, creativity and spirituality, love is part of our make-up, a natural birthright and always available. When we feel this and know it to be true, we need never feel alone again for we carry love with us everywhere we go. It is part of our life-force and springs from deep within us. If you don’t feel it, it’s blocked, that’s all - it’s never truly absent. Universal or spiritual love is the kind we share with all mankind and indeed all living things and the universe around us. It makes us bigger than we are and connects us to all existence. Isn’t that a liberating thought? And the irony is that when you feel this, the human type of love, the romantic kind, is more likely to come your way as a bonus because you’ll be on a natural high and that’s the one that never ends - that’s the love affair with life you can hold onto forever and trust totally. It will not let you down as people can because we’re all imperfect and cannot be responsible for the happiness of others. Thus, life becomes self-loving and not self-defeating. `All we need is love,’ ... the Beatles famously sang and I agree but not with the sentimental, superficial version. Love tends to creep up on us when we least expect it, when we’re not desperate and needy, when we’re alive with our own joy and enjoying our own journey through life. When it’s real love that turns inwards as much as out, shares and doesn’t demand, is given freely and stems from friendship, self-respect and pure joy then it is truly a song worth singing, a song without end.Q. I wonder if you could explain something to me. Why do I always pick `bad’ boys and when the nice ones like me, I’m not interested?A. This is a very interesting question and one that I hear constantly as a counsellor. I will try to explain it in a general and clear way even though it is a very complicated question in some ways.Firstly, your background comes into it. What was your childhood like? How did you see your parents behave with each other. This is our first and most significant influence in regard to relationships. Was your father a `bad boy?’ Secondly, your self-esteem. If you do not at a deep level think much of yourself, you will not allow anyone nice to love you. You will doubt it, question it or bully it out of existence. A bad boy would seem more comfortable, more fitting and you will allow him to hurt you without a second thought but letting a nice guy love you is too scary because you feel unworthy.What I suggest you do is try to identify your relationship pattern. We all have one and if it’s not making us happy or bringing fulfillment into our lives, we need to trace back to the source of it and then let it go.
This might take a lot of work and heartache but it will be worth it in the end as it will bring a new day, a whole new beginning. Look at how your relationships have operated so far - how they begin, how they end, what the guys were like, how you felt, how they acted, were you the pursuer or the pursued, who ended it? The answers to these questions will give you a lot of clues as to where you’ve been and will enable you to start looking at where you want to be in the future. Remember, you do have choices and you do have power. Refuse to be a slave to your past.

This one i call, Kyoichi style!

2009-05-29T00:33:00.000-07:00

Guess who's the kyoichi i'm talking about??? later then....
This strat would MOSTLY (notice that??) work with two childhood friends having hard time to tell their feelings for each other or afraid of losing the friendship if fails, or two newly met persons having attraction to one another but afraid of losing the sensation.

My objective is to keep the flame alive but also keeping it slow.

Here's the most familiar scene, we see each other in the neighborhood or the mall etc....
then of course the normal reaction would be to say hi, hello, how are you?, where are you going? but for me there's an extra.... it's concern.... like "you want me to go with you"? or "have you eaten?" or the use of force "let me accompany you, (pause*) so.. where to go??" followed by a shy smile that works best! if turned out good then, it's an instant date. If not, let her know that when she's with you she's still free...

then from small talk to big revelations.....?
boy: so who's your crush?
girl: well, yes!
boy: do i know the lucky guy???
girl: yes!
boy: did you tell him??
girl: no!
boy: then he'll never know... why?
girl: i'm afraid that if i told him he might avoid me!
boy: who the hell on earth would avoid someone like you huh????
you just have to have more confidence in you!!! (i know! she's talking about me but why
would i confess? if i know she also can't hold this anymore! rude huh? sure! but failsafe!
what if it's not me?)
boy: so let's play a game?
girl: what game?
boy: truth or consequence?
girl: sure (i spin the bottle and pointed on her! lucky!)
boy: truth or consequence???
girl: truth!
boy: (gripping her hands fingers-crossed) who's your crush???
girl: (hurting while the boy grips her hand harder and harder) no fair! it's YOU! (BINGO)
boy: see i won't avoid you! *pause* what? why me??
girl: i don't know do i have to answer??
boy: of course not! but there's a lot of better men out there!
girl: that's why i told you i don't know!
boy: so! want to go out tomorrow???
FINISH!

This is just one of my Love Strategies!

2009-03-28T15:54:00.000-07:00

In my high school days, whenever i feel interested with a girl here's my strategy.
I will name it, "The Alternate Attention a Day"!!!

Here goes the plan, I will start her day by greeting her "hi" then with a
"i-like-you-like" look on my face and ends it there.
Second day, I will start to say "hi" then starts to tease her a little. (Ex. i think your not that
beautiful today!) and ends it there.
Third day, here comes the magic! I will not greet her the Entire day wether she greets me or not! If she greets me, i'll pretend i don't hear it, and if she don't greet me it's ok this will be the start of the challenge!
The fourth day, i will start to greet her again, the fifth not, the sixth day greet, the seventh not.
Here's the catch!
These are her response that I observed from this strategy.
-she's confused of wondering does this guy like me or not. making myself leaving the mystery type to her and making her think of me. but, this is a chance (and my opinion only).
-the process goes on, i'm not courting but she's getting close to mine creating rumors around us
but if they ask her and she denies that she likes me (every girl denies what they like in public)
it's fail safe for i am not courting her,this will also save my face from rumors.
-another she's the one starting the conversation not me, and she starts with these question,
"hey! are you okay yesterday? i was calling you and you just snob me!" here i always smile and say, "you already miss me? it's just a day!" hahaha!!! she'll get furious or shy but it's ok you'll know what to do next depending on the situation.
-at this point, she will wait for the next action you will make making her excited to meet you again and again and again until she gets tired of it ending she asking me "do i like her" hahahaha!!! funny huh! but this is true and happened lots of times and always the same result.

the funny thing is i'm not courting but i got a girlfriend, and it's a boast!! hehe!!! Try this out youngsters at heart!!! it's magic!